Wednesday, October 22, 2014

Your Simple Guide to Meditation


If you haven't started meditating, then you really should. However, it is becoming increasingly hard to meditate in such a digital world. Our minds are programmed to be constantly thinking, going, doing-we never just take the time to sit, relax, and stare.

It is best to aim for at least 15 minutes of meditation daily. You might think: " I don't have that time to just sit there and do nothing at all."

There are 1440 minutes in a day. We waste countless minutes watching tv, surfing the web, pinning things we will never make, and checking our Facebook or Twitter newsfeeds.

Some health benefits of regular meditation are:
  • reduced stress
  • lower blood pressure
  • improved immunity
  • improves focus
  • better memory
  • lowered blood sugar
  • increases life satisfaction
  • improves mood
  • reduces loneliness
  • decreases pain
  • generates helpfulness
  • decreases depression
  • decreases anxiety
Proper meditaton pose should look something like this (but it can vary):

  • legs crossed in vajra pose
  • shoulders level & relaxed
  • eyes neither open or completely closed
  • elbows pointed out to let air circulate
  • sit back to avoid slouching
  • back is straight but not tense
  • mouth is in neutral position
  • head is tilted forward with chin slightly tucked inward
  • hands placed in lap or on the knees
How to meditate:

Everyone has their very own way or technique of meditating so to say "this is how you should be doing it" would be impractical. Also, there are a ton of different ways to do it! But here is my favorite method that always gets me relaxed and ready to start the day. It is called Light/Dark Visualization or  Black & White Meditation.
  1. While breathing in, imagine that all the positive energy of the universe enters your body with the breath. Visualise this positive energy as pure white light which enters all the parts of your body, it pervades every cell and atom. Enjoy this clear white light as you take a deep breath through your nose, filling your lungs completely.
  2. While breathing out, imagine that all your negative energies, mistakes, misunderstanding and emotions leave your body with the breath. Visualise this energy as black smoke, which goes out through your nose and into space, completely disappearing.
  3. If you feel comfortable, use every breath to inhale light and to exhale black smoke and problems.
  4. When distracted by other thoughts, simply observe them without getting involved; transform them into black smoke and breathe them out.

Some meditation tips to remember:

No matter how you choose to meditate, here are a few tips to always remember!
  1. Find a quiet place with zero distraction. Ask your partner to watch the kids, put your cell phone away, and turn the tv off.
  2. Find the perfect time. I love meditating at morning or sunrise; however, it really does not matter when you do it as long as you can relax.
  3. Sit in meditation pose or lay down. This is your preference! Neither way is right or wrong, as long as you are relaxed and able to focus.
  4. Let go. All of your tasks for the day, all of your problems, people who piss you off, money and bills, and everything in your life that is constantly going, going, going-just forget it!
  5. Visualize. Lastly, think happy.
If you still don't think that you can sit still long enough to truly enjoy the art of meditation, try some alternatives such as going for a walk (alone). breathing exercises with your eyes closed, or doing some yoga (in a quiet room). 

Whatever you choose to do, make sure you are taking time for you to reflect.

One Move to a Fuller Booty

Everyone always talks about squats: "Squats this, squats that."

Well, they WORK! Duh.

However, not everyone can do squats, possibly due to bad knees or another medical related issue. But, there is a super awesome booty building alternative to squats that does not get as much attention as it deserves. It not only defys gravity, but builds things upward to perk those glutes up in no time.

So, what is this move? DONKEY KICKS! This exercise is also known as the quadruped bent-knee hip extension. This move works by eliciting a higher degree of muscle activation in both the gluteus maximus and gluteus minimums than many other commonly performed butt exercises, according to University of Wisconsin-La Crosse researchers.

So, let's do one!

How to do a Donkey Kick:

  1. Start on all fours, with your hands directly under your shoulders and your knees directly under your hips.
  2. Keep your right knee at a 90-degree angle as you slowly raise your leg behind you until your thigh is almost parallel to the floor. Pulse your flexed foot toward the ceiling by squeezing your glutes. Your back should remain perfectly still in a neutral spine. The motion should be small and controlled with the muscle doing the work and not momentum.
  3. Return to start position to complete one rep.
  4. Do 20 on each side, three times.

Tuesday, October 21, 2014

Belly Blasting Boot Camp Circuit

Belly Blasting Boot Camp Circuit

Directions: Warm up with five minutes of light cardio, then repeat each three-exercise circuit three times. Cool down with five minutes of stretching or walking.

Circuit 1
30 Burpees
  • Begin in a standing position. Your feet should be shoulder-width apart. Now, lower your body into a squatting position, placing your hands on the floor in front of you.
  • Kick your feet back so that you are in push-up position. Keep your hands firmly on the ground to support your body.
  • Lower your chest to do a push-up. Bring your chest back up.
  • Kick your feet back to their original position. Stand up, and then jump into the air while clapping your arms overhead.
60 Second Plank
  • Start off on a yoga mat in the pushup position. Starting with the pushup position is the easiest way to get into the plank.
  • Lower both your forearms to the ground so that both your elbows and fists are flat to the ground. Your palms should be balled up, and directly underneath your shoulders.
  • Curl your toes under and engage your abs by tilting your pelvis and pulling your belly button toward your spine.
  • Straighten your body but keep your neck and spine neutral. Imagine that you’re a plank of wood, and that you’re straight as an arrow.
  • Flex your abdominals and squeeze your glutes. These are the two major muscle groups you’ll be working out in this exercise.
  • Hold this position, also known as the plank, for 60 seconds. Keep your eyes on the floor in front of you. Avoid raising your behind. Your body should make a straight line from your heels to the back of your head.
25 Bicycle Crunches
  • Lie flat on the floor with your lower back pressed to the ground and contract your core muscles.
  • With your hands gently holding your head, lift your knees to about a 45-degree angle.
  • Slowly, at first, go through a bicycle pedal motion.
  • Alternately touching your elbows to the opposite knees as you twist back and forth.
Circuit 2
20 Leg Lifts
  • Lie on a flat surface with your lower back curvature pressed against the surface. Hold on to a fixed and sturdy object behind you (such as one of the beams from a squat rack) or you can just have your arms by your side with the palms facing the floor. Your feet should be straight in front of you and the upper torso should be aligned with the arms behind you holding on to the fixed object.
  • Raise your legs to where they are off the floor. This will be your starting position.
  • Raise your legs until the torso makes a 90-degree angle with the legs. Exhale as you perform this movement and hold the contraction for a second or so.
  • Go back slowly to the starting position as you breathe in.
60 Second Side Plank
  • Lie on your left side with your knees straight.
  • Prop your upper body up on your left elbow and forearm. Position your elbow under your shoulder.
  • Brace your core by contracting your abs forcefully as if you were about to be punched in the gut.
  • Raise your hips until your body forms a straight line from your ankles to your shoulders. Your head should stay in line with your body.
  • Hold this position for the prescribed amount of time while breathing deeply. That's one set.
  • Turn around so that you're lying on your right side and repeat.
20 Russian Twists
  • Sit on the ground with your knees bent and your heels about a foot from your butt.
  • Lean slightly back without rounding your spine at all. It is really important, and difficult, to keep your back straight, but don’t let it curve.
  • Place your arms straight out in front of you with your hands one on top of the other. Your hands should be level with the bottom of your ribcage.
  • Pull your navel to your spine and twist slowly to the left. The movement is not large and comes from the ribs rotating, not from your arms swinging. Inhale through center and rotate to the right. This completes one rep.
Circuit 3
25 Mountain Climbers
  • Start the exercise by lying face down on the floor.
  • Straighten out your arms and then touch your knees down to the ground or floor.
  • Now you are ready to lift yourself up into position. When doing this, be sure that your hands are directly under your chest at a width that is slightly more than your shoulder length distance.
  • Once you have settled into position and checked the position of your hands you should be sure to keep your legs stretched out, ensuring that they are properly lined up with the rest of your body. Pay special attention to your knees as many people tend to create a gap here but that should be avoided. If the recommended position is uncomfortable for you, it is alright to modify it slightly as long as you maintain the correct posture.
  • Now you should stretch out your left leg for stability. Bend your right knee and bring it up in the direction of your right hand. At this point, you should be in a similar position to the one you would be in if you were climbing a mountain or tree (hence the name) except horizontal instead of vertical.
  • After bringing your right knee up, return it to the original position and do the previous step with your left leg. (Once again, bend the left knee and bring it up towards the left hand mimicking the actions of a mountain climber)
35 Oblique V-ups
  • Lie on your left side, legs angled 30 degrees from your hips.
  • Rest your left arm on the floor and put your right hand behind your head
  • Lift your straight legs off the floor, bringing your torso toward your legs
  • Slowly return to start. That's one rep.
20 Side Jackknives
  • Lie on your left side on an exercise mat with your legs extended straight downward and the right leg on top of the left. Place your left hand on your abdominals. Place your right hand behind your head. This is your starting position.
  • Raise your right let straight in the air while simultaneously raising your torso, bringing your right elbow toward your right leg.
  •  Hold for a moment and then return to the starting position.
  • Repeat for a complete set and then switch sides.

Monday, October 20, 2014

Kimberly Snyder's Glowing Green Smoothie

Kim Snyders GGS

A favorite among celebs as a postpartum smoothie to help drop the baby weight, this green smoothie was created by nutritionist Kimberly Snyder to not only boost weightloss and to brighten up your skin, but to leave you feeling more energetic!

4 Self Defense Moves Every Woman Should Know

It seems as if someone goes missing on a daily basis-women, children, and even men. We then hear about it on the 5 o'clock local news or on the Nancy Grace show at 7pm and wonder what on Earth would make someone do such a thing.


With the latest news on the possible discovery of the missing UVA student Hannah Graham, it just makes me stop to think for a second: this could happen to anyone. And, actually, it does happen every single day, to ordinary people doing ordinary things, everywhere we go.

Here are a few widely publicized cases:

On June 30, 2001, a 23 year old woman named Ginger Hayes was in a convenient store parking lot changing her infant's diaper in the backseat of the car while her husband and brother ran into the store. She and her 11 month old were both abducted and driven to an abandoned field where the mother was killed and the baby was left for dead. Luckily, they were found just in time for the baby to be saved.
On December 24, 2002, an almost 8 month pregnant woman named Laci Peterson was reportedly strangled to death by her husband Scott Peterson, in her own home, and dumped in the marina nearby.
 On September 25th, 2014, a realtor, Beverly Carter, went missing shortly after she was due to show a house to an unknown individual. Her body was found a few days later.

The list of the missing and murdered women goes on and on. Most cases do not even make it to the national headlines. These women were doing everyday things that we, as people, normally do: going to a bar and maybe having a few too many drinks, tending to our babies in public, expecting a baby and putting our trusts in our spouse or lover, and even doing our everyday jobs that we went to school for.

As women, we need to learn how to protect ourselves. Because you never know when or if something will happen to you.

However, these moves are great to remember and easy for anyone to do them when needed:

1. Groin Kick: This move works well for a reason-it hurts like hell!However, if you are not in a position to kick your assailant in the groin, use the next best (and actually more accurate thing)-your hands! Yes! Grab his groin as hard as you can. You can even use your elbow if he is behind you or back kick.

2. Elbow Hook: To escape from a bear hug, move your arms up to loosen the assailant's grip on you. Then bend your arm and use your elbow to slam the assailant in face or throat.

3. Throat Jab: If the person grasps you from the side, pivot to face him and punch him in the throat with your fist. This will take his breath away or cause him to choke.

4. Eye Gouge: This move is best executed by keeping your index and middle fingers together. Make a pistol with you fingers and jam them both into an attacker’s eye, hard. Don’t just graze the eyeball… You are trying to push your fingers through the back of their skull.


There are also everyday items that you carry around in your purse that can make great weapons in case of an attack. Here is one way to use your house key as a weapon! Rings make a great weapon as well.


Or I guess you can just buy one of these:


Here are some important tips to always remember:
  • Be aware of your surroundings.
  • Trust your gut.
  • Stay in well lit areas. 
  • Have a friend walk with you instead of walking alone.
  • Turn your lights on.
  • Lock the door. 

The Best Exercise for Your Tummy Type

For many of us women, one of the hardest areas to tame is our abs! Luckily, there are excercises to target your specific issue head on!

But first, which tummy type are you?


Here are 5 different types of tummies and how to target each for the ultimate belly fat loss:

1. The Spare Tire:                                                                                 

People with this type:
  • These people are likely to lead sedentary lives and have desk jobs or are "couch potatoes."
  • They may also typically have an emotional attachment to sugary foods or alcohol.
  • Exercising very little.
  • Sitting lots.
  • Eating lots of sugar and refined carbohydrates in products like biscuits, cakes and white bread, or rely on starchy carbs like white pasta noodles and white rice. 
  • Drinking alcohol regularly.
  • Cut down on alcohol. ‘Alcohol turns into pure sugar once consumed and goes straight to your waist. It also stops you from burning all other fat until the booze has been processed.
  • Avoid low-fat and so-called ‘diet’ snacks. These pre-packaged products are often packed full of chemicals, refined sugar, salt and preservatives to give them flavor.
  • Eat cleaner. Rely on a healthy diet full of unprocessed fresh foods such as fish, eggs, organic meat and vegetables.
  • Move more. If you work a desk job, park far away in the parking lot or start taking the stairs instead of the elevator. Use your lunch breaks to go for a walk as you eat. 
  • Exercise. Simply going for a long walk, doing lunges, squats or dips at home or a yoga class will be beneficial. You don’t need a gym.

  • If you regularly reward yourself for a hard day with a piece of cake or deal with bad news with a biscuit, it’s important to remember that being beautiful is as much about how you feel as how you look. The starting point for any tummy transformation is feeling happy.

2. The Stress Belly:                                                                                                                       abs-woman                           
  • Typically over-achievers with perfectionist personalities.
  • Usually also susceptible to digestive conditions such as irritable bowel syndrome (IBS), which can cause bloating and make their tummies look far worse.
  • Weight is specific to the front of the midriff and the umbilical area. When stressed, we produce cortisol, a hormone which encourages the body to cling on to fat around the stomach.
  • This type of tummy will also be fairly hard to the touch, rather than wobbly.
  • Skip meals
  • Abuse your adrenal system with too much caffeine
  • Grabs junk food for convenience.
  • Go to bed earlier and sleep more. Lack of sleep disrupts the production of leptin, the hormone which helps regulate appetite and metabolism.
  • Relax. Try deep breathing exercises, meditation, and long baths before bed to encourage a good night’s sleep.
  • Limit coffee consumption to no more than two cups a day.
  • Try calming exercises such as yoga, long walks, swimming, or resistance work.
  • Stress-busting stretches and yoga poses at night time can help to lower cortisol levels.
  • Try chamomile tea at night as well.
3. The Pooch:                                                                                                            abs-woman           
  • Likely to be busy moms or have demanding careers.
  • They may even be a gym junkie, but stuck in a workout-and-diet rut, perhaps always eating the same foods and doing the same routine at the gym, which keeps you slim but leaves you with a lower belly..
  • Doing excessive crunches and using gimmicky gym items such as ab-rollers can place a strain on the hip flexors and the lower back, causing the tummy muscles to protrude so your belly sticks out.
  • Good nutrition and plenty of fiber are essential to improve digestive conditions such as inflammation, bloating and constipation, which can make a pooch tummy worse. Green leafy vegetables, oatbran and wholemeal grains are good, natural sources of fiber.
  • Sit-ups done incorrectly increase your lower back curve and accentuate the ‘pouch’ effect. Swap sit-ups for planks. Do these by lying face down on a mat, resting on your forearms. Push off from the floor, rising onto your toes and elbows, so your body is parallel to the floor from your head to your heels. Start off doing ten seconds and build up to a whole minute.
  • It’s a common misconception that using weights bulks women up. In fact, the opposite is true. Using weights will burn serious amounts of fat in a short space of time, so try introducing circuits — repetitions of exercises like squats or lunges which work individual muscle sets.
  • Reduce inflammation by drinking lots of water and eating easy-to-digest foods such as green vegetables and lighter proteins such as fish and chicken.
4. The Mommy Tummy:                                                                                                        abs-woman                   
  • Women with these tummies have usually given birth in the past few years, and, being a typical mom, have little time for themselves. 
  • Rushing back to exercise too quickly or overdoing it.
  • Being stressed about getting rid of your baby weight will only make you cling onto it more. Give yourself a break!’
  • Fish oil supplements turn on fat-burning hormones and turn off fat-storing hormones. Begin by taking three 1,000mg capsules a day with meals and build up to five, with permission from your doctor.
  • Try to eat good and healthy fats — found in sources such as nuts, oils and olives — every day. Not only do they help you burn fat and absorb vitamins from food effectively, they also help combat tiredness — a big help for tired moms.
  • Gentle pelvic floor exercises (known as Kegels) act as a natural corset for the body to flatten your tummy from the inside out. Squeeze and clench your pelvic floor muscles 15-20 times, in five sessions a day.
  • Steer clear of sit-ups. After giving birth, the linea alba muscles — which run down the mid-line of the abdomen — separate and you need to allow them to recover. Crunches are the worst thing you can do, as they will force these muscles farther apart. Instead, breathe deep into your tummy while on all fours, then slowly exhale while doing a pelvic floor exercise.
  • Daytime naps (try putting up blackout blinds) and stretching before bed are important ways to restore sleep hormones and boost fat-burning.         

5. The Bloated Belly:                                                                                                                              abs-woman
  • Bloated tummies are often flat in the morning, but swell throughout the day with gas or indigestion.
  • It is almost always caused by food intolerances and allergies, or sluggish bowels as a result of a poor diet.
  • You eat the same foods and may have done so for a lifetime without realising you’re intolerant to them.
  • The most common intolerances wheat and gluten (bread, pasta, pastries, pizza, cakes and cereals).  Gluten can inflame the bowel and make the stomach look bigger.
  • The key here is to experiment to work out what bothers your belly as you know your body better than anyone else. Try eliminating key culprits such as gluten for a fortnight to see if your bloating reduces, or worsens when you reintroduce foods.
  • Focus on a healthy diet with lots of fresh veg, meat, chicken and fish.’
  • Sluggish bowels are often a result of eating the wrong foods in the wrong way. Make breakfast your biggest meal, as this is when digestion is at its peak, and avoid eating late at night which leads to bloating. Chew food properly and drink plenty of water to keep the digestive system moving.
  • Bloating can be a sign of imbalanced gut flora. So to get your tummy really flat you need to repopulate it with friendly bacteria. Prebiotic and probiotic supplements are the simplest way. Natural sources include miso soup, sour cream and some fruit and veg including kale, garlic and onions. 
  • Believe it or not, breathing can be the best thing you can do for this kind of tummy. Try this each morning: lay on your back, completely relaxed, and breathe deep into your tummy ten times.
  • After eating, a walk will help the digestive process, too. Always keep moving!

Sunday, October 19, 2014

10 Days to 100 Crunches Challenge

Got ten days to blast your abs with crunches? We are challenging you to do 100 crunches by the end of 10 days-and see a difference! On top of that, you would have done a total of 550 crunches within those 10 days!

**Please note: These do NOT have to be done at one sitting. You can break them up and do them throughout the day-from the time you wakeup till the time you go to bed**

How to do crunches:
  • Lie on your back on the floor. Using a mat or carpeted surface is more comfortable, but make sure it doesn’t have too much cushioning.
  • Bend your knees. Your feet can be flat on the floor, or you can keep them suspended in the air during your crunches for a little extra crunch.
  • Cross your arms in front of your chest. You can also place your hands behind your neck or head, but many people tend to pull their head or neck up during the exercise, which can place extra strain on the spine. Your head and neck should be resting on your hands.
  • Lift your shoulders towards the ceiling using your abdominal muscles and pause at the peak.[1] It is very important not to lift your entire back off the floor, as this can cause back strain, and the extended movement does not help you develop six pack abs any faster. When your shoulders are off the ground, pause and hold that position for a full second (or more).
  • Ease back down slowly as you inhale. Don’t just “plop” back down. Your control on the way down works your ab muscles as well.
10 Days to 100 Crunches Challenge
Day 1: 10 Crunches
Day 2: 20 Crunches
Day 3: 30 Crunches
Day 4: 40 Crunches
Day 5: 50 Crunches
Day 6: 60 Crunches
Day 7: 70 Crunches
Day 8: 80 Crunches
Day 9: 90 Crunches
Day 10: 100 Crunches

Why Your Wedding Ring Does Not Mean Shit the great scheme of things, that is.

Ok, so the title is a bit harsh. But hear me out first.

The other day, I read a recent study online about engagement and wedding rings. It stated that the cheaper the ring, the better and more successful the marriage will be.

Hmmm. This seems to hold true, at least in my first marriage.. until I realized a wedding ring really did not mean shit. I remember when we got married and I was so excited about my big, expensive ring that I constantly felt the need to show it off. Was I happy in my marriage? Nope. But I had a big, expensive ring. 

I remarried and my wonderful husband went all out and got me a BEAUTIFUL Tolkowsky wedding ring set, about the same price as my first ring or so. He could have tied a shoelace around my finger and I would have been just as happy with him because I got to marry this sexy guy!!!!

However, this time, I did not really care what the ring looked like or how much it had cost. I was and am still very happy in my marriage (this time, yay!) and could care less about showing my pretty ring off. Heck, most days I do not wear it. Not because I don't want to, but because I am battling poop, vomit, food fight remnants, and spit up on a regular basis.

Specifically, the results of the study indicated that men who spent between $2,000 and $4,000 on their engagement rings were 1.3 times more likely to get divorced than men who spent between $500 and $2,000.

I think the study is complete bullshit. It has women overly obsessed over their ring size (as if most of us weren't already)-not to mention, the study probably has made women:

  • Question the current state or future of their marriages.
  • Ask their husband how much he spent (though most women already know. come on, we are women!)
  • Feel complete chaos, panic, and worry over whether or not their marriages will last-all because of the size of their rings.
  • Focus too much on material aspects of a successful marriage and not the actual reason for the marriage itself
However, I DO understand that the study is implying that focusing too much on the material aspects of marriage and the cost of things can take the focus away from what is really important-the marriage itself.

(Hey, look, its my ring. Who cares?)

But can't we say the same about expensive weddings as well? I eloped and had a courthouse wedding the first time. Divorce. I eloped again and had another courthouse wedding and SUCCESS! I maybe spent $100 each time. We did not have this huge elaborate wedding the first time and guess what-I still got divorced. The second time was the charm. I had no desire for a big wedding because, quite frankly, big weddings don't mean shit either. Besides, you ever notice how weddings tend to cater to EVERYONE else besides the actual bride & groom alone? Sheesh.

Let's face it. People love to flash. Whether its money, clothes, jewelry, cars, a new hairstyle, a degree, boobs-people love doing it. They love flaunting what they got. When a woman gets engaged, the one thing people ask is "When can I see that ring?!" It seems as if all of the attention is on the ring. Why isn't it moreso on WHAT the ring means?? "We are getting married, bitches!"

(My sweet husband and I on the day we married. I chose to not even wear the ring that he bought for me to get married in. Instead, I wore my late grandmother's most prized ring, in her memory. That was she was with us on our special day.)

Ok. let's go way back for a minute.

In Ancient Egypt, the circle was the symbol of eternity, with no beginning or end, not only to the Egyptians, but many other ancient cultures. The hole in the center of the ring also had significance. It wasn’t just considered a space, but rather a gateway, or door; leading to things and events both known and unknown. To give a woman a ring signifies never-ending and immortal love. They made their rings of silver and gold wire.

However, physical sentiments of love were dated back even before Egypt. The Cavemen tied cords made of braided grass around his chosen mate's wrists, ankles, and waist to bring her spirit under his control. Otherwise meaning, she belonged to him.

Rings are meaningful, yes. After all, they are a symbol of life's greatest committment: marriage... But that is just that. Rings do not mean love. After we die, the rings just lay there in our caskets forever and ever.. until a thousand years from now, grave robbers come dig you up for your belongings. Sheesh.

But, all kidding aside- at the end of the day, was it that pretty little (or big) ring around your finger that helped to hold your marriage together that day or was it your love, loyalty, and devotion?

Saturday, October 18, 2014

Easy DIY Yogurt Drops

Make Your Own Yummy Greek Yogurt Melts! | Disney Baby
What you need:
  • 1 cup low fat or nonfat yogurt, any flavor
  • Small plastic zip bag
  • Freezer-safe baking pan or tray (make sure it will fit in your freezer)
  1. Spoon yogurt into zip bag. Release extra air and seal.
  2. Snip off a small piece of one bottom corner of the bag. Gently squeeze the yogurt into small, bite-sized drops (about 1 teaspoon each) on the non-stick pan.
  3. Place in the freezer until completely frozen; 2-4 hours.
  4. Remove frozen yogurt drops from pan with a spatula. Toss them in a clean plastic freezer bag or container and keep them frozen until you’re ready to serve. Enjoy drops as a snack by themselves or toss with fruit!

Yield: 4 servings, or about 48 drops

Source: Disney Baby

The Do's & Don'ts of Being a Good Mom

The other day, I sat with my son, rocking him in his rocking chair. Earlier that day, I had seen a segment on a news broadcast of a mother who was jailed for abusing her son-to death. 

My mind just couldn't fathom why would anyone do such a thing or how could things go that far? It literally broke my heart.

Motherhood can be difficult, but no child deserves to be hit, beaten, slapped, or told that they are worthless or hated.

My difficult childhood has taught me exactly what not to do, but sometimes, I still feel imperfection in my parenting. I guess its because, well, I am human and, as humans, we are never perfect and we tend to beat ourselves up. 

However, I have learned so much in my journey as a first time mom to a precious little boy. He has been my blessing and the fact that I get to be HIS mommy is the most exciting task of my entire lifetime.

Here are the do's and don't of being a good mom-to me-that I live my personal life by:

A good mom does not...
  1. A good mom does not talk bad about her kids. Ever.
  2. A good mom does not put her work before her children.
  3. A good mom does not always have to have the chores done around the house.
  4. A good mom does not always have the answers to all of life's questions.
  5. A good mom does not belittle her children, criticize, or judge them.
  6. A good mom does not give up on her children nor puts conditions on her love for them.
  7. A good mom does not have to shower her children with money to show that she cares for them.
  8. A good mom does not have to have a perfect wardrobe, the newest hairstyle, a fancy car, or a fresh manicure.
  9. A good mom does not need validation from anyone.
  10. A good mom does not have to be perfect.

A good mom does...

  1. A good mom does always gives her best-even when she feels like giving up.
  2. A good mom does give unlimited hugs and kisses and loves unconditionally.
  3. A good mom does always listen and uplifts to her children.
  4. A good mom does hang onto each and every moment as if it were the last.
  5. A good mom does raise a child to become strong, compassionate, and independent. 
  6. A good mom does love her husband before her children as if it were not for him, the children would not exist.
  7. A good mom does cherish her life and counts her blessings.
  8. A good mom does balance time between her husband, kids, and herself-even if it is nearly impossible to do.
  9. A good mom does provide all the bare necessities. 
  10. A good mom does make sure that her children know that they are wanted, loved, and adored.

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